Motherhood is special. It's difficult, trying, wonderful, fun, enlightening, and all the feelings.
Yesterday was Mother's Day. In the past 4 weeks I've heard 3 different stories about how a mother lost their baby. That is more than I've ever heard of in years of working with women. Being a Type 2 Enneagram makes it difficult to process these stories, and I truthfully cannot process the emotions that these women must be feeling. It did not feel fair so close to Mother's day.
Mother's day should be spent with your littles. It should be spent in happiness and joy in relationships with your family. I think for the majority - this is what Mother's day looks like, this is what my mother's day looked like.
A humbling part of me knows that there are those out there who felt sadness on Mother's Day. Whether it is from losing a mother, a child, struggling to conceive, or maybe you lost your relationship with your mom through a fight. All of those examples, and I am sure there are more, leave a feeling of dread or regret on what is supposed to be a special day.
In reflection of Mother's Day - I hope all of you had a glorious day. I also hope those who experienced sadness could feel peace, and know that you are not ignored on that holiday.
Motherhood can take many shapes
~Mother by birth
~Mother by adoption
~Mother by friendship
~Mother by sisterhood
~Mother by circumstance
I know Mother's day was technically yesterday - but if you have a friend struggling on that day here are some simple acts that you can do to show support:
1. Send a handwritten card - simple & personal
2. Call them! Some people appreciate a simple call to talk
3. Send Flowers - a sign of care and support
4. Take them out for a walk at a park
5. A Distraction - on occasion this is appreciated, take them to a movie, dinner, painting with wine, etc.
These are just some simple ideas, but those are enough! Mothers need to support mothers, just as women support women.
Happy Mother's Day :)
